I believe in healthy relationships. My platform for Remove The Makeup is based on the concept that we can not only live emotionally and spiritually healthy lives by letting go of the weight we carry, being more transparent/ real about who God created us to be and what He created us to do but we can and deserve to enjoy the happiness of healthy relationships (friendships included). So often we find ourselves engulfed with toxic people or in lust with a toxic person. They fail to celebrate your accomplishments, always speaking negative words into your life, jealous, hurtful, abusive, angry; evil. We stick with it because "we've been friends since 5th grade" or "they showed me love when I didn't receive it at home" but those excuses are holding you hostage in a place you were never meant to be in. God is waiting to introduce you to some AMAZING people and connect with the ONE He created just for you but you have to want to GROW beyond this place of not enough. You don't have to endure pain when you deserve happiness. There are signs that people give you to let you know to get the heck out of dodge but you have to be willing to see them. You don't have to explain why you are moving on and you don't have to apologize just move forward. I was ALWAYS attracting toxic people. Friends who weren't really my friends, relationships with guys were like *side eye* and I was tired of being bamboozled. So I prayed for discernment. I asked God to allow me to see people before they showed themselves to me. Listen, if you pray for discernment and expect God to give it to you and He does, you better use it. It will save your life. #PressOn #noweight #nomakeup
Naive
Suffering from a black eye, bruises on my arm.
Marks around my neck, sometimes love can bring you harm.
But I love him and he loves me, how do I know, he told me.
Scratches on my face, swollen from head to toe, I can’t feel my body a love that no one knows.
There’s a lump in the back of my head and I have a few broken bones. True love for some comes different, for me it comes in blows.
But I love him and he loves me, how do I know, he told me.
I’m jumping in my car to leave, but I always keep going back.
The love that we had was strong, but the pain I endured was black.
But it’s better to be loved, than to not have anyone at all.
I love him, he loves me, I know because he slams me into walls.
(save me)
4 ending violence through education…
How to avoid dangerous situations
- Be awareof your surroundings. Knowing where you are and who is around you may help you to find a way to get out of a bad situation.
- Try to avoid isolated areas. It is more difficult to get help if no one is around.
- Walk with purpose.Even if you don’t know where you are going, act like you do.
- Trust your instincts.If a situation or location feels unsafe or uncomfortable, it probably isn’t the best place to be.
- Try not to load yourself downwith packages or bags as this can make you appear more vulnerable.
- Make sure your cell phone is with youand charged and that you have cab money.
- Don't allow yourself to be isolated with someone you don’t trust or someone you don’t know.
- Avoid putting music headphones in both earsso that you can be more aware of your surroundings, especially if you are walking alone.
What men can do?
While individuals of both genders are perpetrators of sexual assault, the majority of those who commit sexual assaults are men. Even so, it is important to remember that the vast majority of men are not rapists. There are many things men (and women) can do to help prevent sexual violence.
If you see someone in danger of being assaulted:
- Step in and offer assistance. Ask if the person needs help. NOTE: Before stepping in, make sure to evaluate the risk. If it means putting yourself in danger, call 911 instead.
- Don’t leave. If you remain at the scene and are a witness, the perpetrator is less likely to do anything.
- If you know the perpetrator, tell him or her that you do not approve of what s/he is doing. Ask him or her to leave the potential victim alone.
If someone you know has been assaulted:
- Listen. Be there. Don’t be judgmental.
- Be patient. Remember, it will take your friend some time to deal with the crime.
- Help to empower your friend or family member. Sexual assault is a crime that takes away an individual’s power, it is important not to compound this experience by putting pressure on your friend or family member to do things that he or she is not ready to do yet.
- Encourage your friend to report the rape to law enforcement (call 911 in most areas). If your friend has questions about the criminal justice process, talking with someone on the National Sexual Assault Hotline, 1-800-656-HOPE can help.
- Let your friend know that professional help is available through the National Sexual Assault Hotline, 1-800 656-HOPE and the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline.
- If your friend is willing to seek medical attention or report the assault, offer to accompany them wherever they need to go (hospital, police station, campus security, etc.)
- Encourage him or her to contact one of the hotlines, but realize that only your friend can make the decision to get help. (Information courtesy of www.rainn.org)
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